Sadly, if it's not one thing it's another. Last night Domino (the dog) was aggressive with Tako (the little dog of the housemate) and managed to leave a very small red dot on his leg (this "dot" is the size of the top of a sewing pin - I'm assuming where her teeth caught his leg - it's not a bite, not a scratch, but a kind of an red indent). Asha is not ok with this, i'm not ok with this.
The short term solution is that Domino is confined to my bedroom while Tako is in the house.
The thing is that the dogs actually get along fine for 90% of the time - they even play together. During the day, when it's either Alex or I here, they mostly lay in two different spots in the living room and don't seem to hang out, and then there are small bursts of play that one or the other instigates, where they chase each other around the room. (Now, during this play, I've noticed Tako biting, near Domino's eyes, and I meant to talk with Asha about that being a concern, but hadn't yet). Asha seemed to think we could let them both interact while we were all three there, but the aggressive behavior has always happened while we're all three there (so that didn't really make any sense to me).
I suggested a trainer - but she will categorically not pay for one. Additionally, when I asked her if she would listen to what a trainer had to say if I brought one in and paid for the consultation myself, she said "Well, I might, depending on what they say."
(which to me equals no, she wouldn't listen)
However, she then spent the rest of the night finding progressively more insistent ways of telling me that my dog isn't trained well and doesn't obey me. She suggested a muzzle, or crate training, as a fix. I noted that our first trainer was against crate training domino, and that a muzzle wouldn't take care of the aggression/dominance issue.
As her final note on the night, she again told me that Domino doesn't listen to me unless I've got treats in my hand, and that she thought it would be best if I worked with a trainer privately first, and then, depending on what that trainer said, she might be willing to consider letting the trainer see them interact. But that she again thought it was a problem between me and Domino.
It's not a problem between me and Domino. Domino obeys me in a variety of ways without treats (most often on walks, when she correctly takes position beside me and walks at my pace on a loose leash, stops at every corner, is asked to stop and let me go out doors first, etc.). Yes, I have used treats in excess when calling her to me and when I want her to sit/down/touch fingers (something my first trainer suggested we wean her off of once we'd firmly established the behaviors), but honestly? The problem isn't my relationship with my dog, it's my dog's relationship with her dog.
We did all of the introduction things one should do - slowly introduced, they did a lot of bowing, rewarding them for positive behavior with each other, making sure the dogs had different spaces (Tako is not allowed in my room, etc). And again, they predominantly get along with each other, including forms of play.
However, when these aggressive behaviors of Domino started cropping up (which was after the first week that I'd lived here) I went and looked up a bunch of dog training websites to find info, and sent Asha what I'd found. She "glanced" at it but obviously didn't bother to read it, since she continued to do behaviors that the sites said wouldn't help: Tako has very bad separation anxiety and she marks all of her comings and goings from the apartment with a big emotional fanfare; she drags Domino away from Tako when she is being aggressive, and protects Tako by standing in front of or between the two dogs when she thinks Domino is in the way. She consistently talked to me about how Tako is just a funny little dog and she didn't feel any need to work with him on his behavior (jumping excessively, biting while playing, randomly yipping in fear when his leash is pulled a tiny bit - something Asha does), because "that is just how he is"
I want to tell her that her dog is badly trained, that she has problems listening to people, and that she's a fucking idiot and I don't want to live here anymore and she can take her issues, and her taking advantage of people, and find someone else to sucker.
So apparently I'm in the market for a new apartment.
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