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05 October 2010 @ 10:10 pm
30 days notice  
Got this email from Asha today:


I definitely want to prevent Tako from being bitten again. In fact I would like for he and Domino to get along peacefully with out he and I being fearful that she may do it ever again. I agree that she doesn't constantly attack him but her aggressive behaviors occur far too often and now with an injury this has become serious to me. I'll take a look at these sites today to see if there is something that we can come up with. I know you don't like my ideas of using a crate, muzzle, and/or doggy day care with Domino but I think they are effective methods when used properly and definitely not as costly as you having a trainer come out to work with Domino as mentioned in our conversation last night. Either way, thanks for coming up with ideas as well, i appreciate you being proactive. I do like the idea of you getting a trainer for Domino. I wish you luck with the trainer and hope you and Domino learn how to work well together. Once you two establish a good foundation I will be willing to re-evaluate how I think we should all move forward (tako and I join the training or as you said to me, you finding a different housing situation). If I come up with other ideas after reading through these sites to help out I'll let you know.


So, my options are to crate my dog, muzzle my dog, or pay for doggie day care (which is about $25 per day, so if I'm having her out at doggie day care every day I'm not home, that's $50 a week?  or more if I leave the house?  Or to work with a trainer on MY relationship with my dog, because that's the problem here.  But she certainly won't actually listen to a trainer until after I've done training. 

I'm done.  I gave my 30 day notice tonight, as follows:

Dear Asha,

I do take the dog interaction seriously, and I thank you for responding to my email. I was in contact with the following trainer today: http://www.sandydriscoll.com/ who noted that it is essential that she see both dogs together in order to offer any feedback on behavior modification. I understand from your email below and our conversation last night that you are not interesting in pursuing this as a solution.

I think, at this point, that I need to pursue other living arrangements. Attached you will find my letter giving you my 30 days notice, effective tomorrow. Please confirm via email that you received this.

Thank you,

Hi kate,
Thanks for sending me the link to the trainer. I guess since you have decided to submit your notice I do not need to look in to it. I was hoping you could work with the trainer first and possibly then tako and I could join in.
Unfortunately you are breaking your contract. You are obligated for 3 months and because you are breaking your contract you are not due your deposit. Please look up your renters rights to be clear.
Sorry it did not work out.

Yep, she spent the money.  I think I'm going to have to take a loss on this, because there's no way I could be here for two months.


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my monkied brainkatekat1010 on October 7th, 2010 12:59 am (UTC)
thanks sweetheart! it looks like i'm actually going to be able to stay and evil!housemate is going to leave, so things are looking up!
savoy trufflesavoytruffle on October 6th, 2010 01:24 am (UTC)
i am so incredibly irritated on your behalf. wtf.
my monkied brainkatekat1010 on October 7th, 2010 12:59 am (UTC)
yeah, it felt ... well, seriously demoralizing. but there's a light at the end of the tunnel now (new post = new info)
sahiya on October 6th, 2010 01:37 am (UTC)
That blows. But yeah, I wouldn't stay anywhere I thought Caz was being mistreated or might be mistreated.
my monkied brainkatekat1010 on October 7th, 2010 01:00 am (UTC)
it definitely was a huge concern - and i was really concerned that our owner behaviors were what was making things worse, you know? but there's a light at the end of the tunnel now (my new post = new hope)
Professor Fancypants von Deth, Esq: Reflectionsdwg on October 6th, 2010 01:54 am (UTC)
Ohhhh boy. I hope you find a new place ASAP.

Universe, cut Kate a break. Seriously, this is enough. I mean it, universe.
my monkied brainkatekat1010 on October 7th, 2010 01:01 am (UTC)
Thank you for asking the Universe to cut me some slack - it did (new post has details). I was beginning to feel like the black pit of despair or something.
literate and stylish: hug youmishloran on October 6th, 2010 02:41 am (UTC)
Mate, I'd not give her any more rent, just fuck off. She's a headcase, nutjob and asshole. Jesus fucking Christ, these people! AARGH!

Super good luck finding somewhere to move, Kate. I really hope you can find somewhere fast and where it is Nice! You do deserve it. I know it doesn't seem like it, possibly, what with All This Crap Constantly Grinding You Down, but you are wonderful and you do not deserve all this. If I were more religious, I'd go down the "all this is sent to try us" but, well, I'm not, and the world is a hard, harsh taskmistress.

my monkied brainkatekat1010 on October 7th, 2010 01:02 am (UTC)
Yeah, if I hadn't already paid October I would have really thought about taking it back.

HOWEVER, new post mish, includes new info - the landlord is getting rid of her and letting me take over the lease. so seriously, universe gave me a break with that one!
Blue: NF :: Beagle :: Heartblue_meridian on October 6th, 2010 03:44 am (UTC)
*siiiigh* Poor Domino! *hugs you both*
my monkied brainkatekat1010 on October 7th, 2010 01:03 am (UTC)
thank you sweetheart! there is light at the end of the tunnel now (details in new post) and i think it's gonna be ok. rough for the next 30 days but ok.
your royal pie-nessentrenous88 on October 6th, 2010 09:55 am (UTC)
Sucks so hard, but yes, take the loss, get the hell out of there.

If you haven't already written a check for this month's rent, then...maybe don't? Or can you cancel the check still? I don't think you should have to pay if she's withholding your security, and if she's making so much cash off you all in the apartment anyway.
Shannon: Delilah high-fiveshannon730 on October 6th, 2010 09:59 am (UTC)
Wow, that sucks. I'm so sorry. I don't blame you for deciding to leave though, not if she obviously doesn't see any way her dog could be partially responsible for the problems. Honestly, the whole thing is probably the dogs working out the pack order more than real Domino is going to kill Tako problems. Also know, from experience, it's scarier when one is a small dog though.

(also though, might have been amusing to put Domino in daycare as it would've proven he's not aggressive, because post doggy daycare's won't take a dog that shows any aggression at all toward another dog.)
my monkied brainkatekat1010 on October 7th, 2010 01:06 am (UTC)
It's definitely their relationship that's iffy since Domino does fine with other dogs at the dog park (where i take her every other week) and with dogs out when we're walking. Not that I'm blaming it on her or anything, but its' very much got something to do with their interactions together.

And yeah, it is much scarier when it's a small dog - that part i do have a lot of sympathy with.

On the good side, looks like there's light at the end of the tunnel, so i just have to hang in here for 30 days or so. (check new post for details)

and thanks for the support lady - it means a lot to hear it from someone who has as much experience with dogs as you do. I was beginning to question myself, you know?
Shannonshannon730 on October 7th, 2010 09:54 am (UTC)
Which is probably it was mostly working out the pecking order...which they likely would've done without any serious damage. We got through it with Delilah every time my cousin brings her yappy pain in the ass dog over. But yeah, scary when one dog is small enough to be the other's chew toy.

Although it also sounds like the new arrangement (I just read your new post) is probably best for you anyway.
reremouse: I give upreremouse on October 6th, 2010 11:28 am (UTC)
What the person before me said about pack order and doggie daycare and a huge WTF for the entire situation you've been going through, dishonest people and dog owners who don't understand even the most basic social behaviors of dogs.
my monkied brainkatekat1010 on October 7th, 2010 01:07 am (UTC)
thank you!! it seriously has felt like one bad thing on top of another. but there's light at the end of the tunnel (see my new post for details) - i feel a bit hinky about it, but also majorly relieved.
Elite Nerd Patrol, On Duty: aaghmechassninja on October 6th, 2010 11:16 pm (UTC)

there are legal reasons to break the lease, which include "noxious odors, such as from sewage leaks, mold and mildew, dead rats in the walls, pigeons nesting in the attic"

also, there is never a case where she can NOT give you your security deposit back. you may be obligated to pay rent, but the security deposit is a different deal. also, since you're subletting, i'm not sure that the normal laws apply on her side, as she is not the landlord/property owner (right?).

since asha and the landlady seem to be in a giant fight, too, you might go to the landlady and see what the terms of the lease actually are. your rights as a subtenant should be the same as her rights as a tenant. i.e. if her lease is a month-to-month, so is yours, and so on. http://www.dca.ca.gov/publications/landlordbook/living-in.shtml

my mom was a realtor for a bit and learned all the laws, so i know the TX laws a lot better than the CA ones, but if you want me to have her take a look at your contract, let me know...
my monkied brainkatekat1010 on October 7th, 2010 01:10 am (UTC)
thanks lady for the links!! i'm actually very interested in the idea that she should not have set up a 3 month lease with us because her lease is month to month and you can't give greater powers to your subtenants than you have as a tenant.

and about the whole rent/security deposit - it would come out to the same amount, which is why i think she's saying that she'll just keep the money. but she isn't the landlord property owner, so ... well, i was a bit devious. and it's all worked out. (check newest post for details).

sadly our lease contract is just a single paragraph that says we'll agree to be here for 3 months and pay the amounts to Asha, nothing nothing else. but that's all pretty moot anyway (again, check new post!)

BJ: Bad Bad Daydara_starscream on October 6th, 2010 11:17 pm (UTC)
She's got the contract memorized? Nice lady. Does she keep a tally of Times It Just Didn't Work Out (Not My Fault)?

How much of a loss will you have to deal with if you move now? And does she plan on doing something to get you to cough up the next two months' rent?

Needless to say, this sucks monkey fuck. (squish!hugs for you and Dom)
my monkied brainkatekat1010 on October 7th, 2010 01:11 am (UTC)
Yeah, she does, cuz not only was it a paragraph long, but she's obviously done this to other people before. And I'm sure she does keep a tally, but in her world it's of "The People Who Wronged me When I was Never In the Wrong"

check newest post for detais - i did something kinda underhanded but it seems like it's all going to work out in 30 days or so.

*hugs you*